Table Of Contents
- Stop Checking To See Who Has Viewed Your Story.
- Stop Deleting Posts Because They Don’t Have Enough Likes.
- Stop Dwelling In The Past About What Could’ve Been.
- Stop Feeding Embarrassed About Things That Make You Feel Happy.
- Stop Comparing Yourself To Somebody Else, You Are Beautiful.
- Stop Believing That Social Media Acceptance Determines Your Self Worth.
1. Stop Checking To See Who Has Viewed Your Story.
Would you ever say that your notifications control you? Posting a tale causes you to lose track of time as you endlessly swipe, refresh, and wonder: Who noticed it? Who cared? They remain silent, but why? Don’t you think it’s draining? The true sting, though, is that the tranquility you seek isn’t on the other side of those opinions, but of caring less about who watched.
Evaluate it. How accurate are their assessments? Is it validation? Famous people? Is there any relationship? Views, however, are like Monopoly money: they appear precious, but they cannot purchase happiness. Watching the number of people that viewed your tale can make you feel like you’re reading tea leaves to predict the future. Warning: it’s ineffective.
Envision yourself at a party, but instead of soaking in the atmosphere, you’re fixated on finding out who’s staring at you. I know, it seems strange. I thought that was the point of our stories, too. In exchange for digital “breadcrumbs” of attention, we forego actual moments.
How about you just stopped? Imagine for a second if you shared your tale online and then deleted it. There will be no need to reload, second-guess, or wonder why “she hasn’t watched it?” Take stock of your life instead—your aspirations, your happiness. The magic happens there.
And guess what? You’ll live life to the fullest the less you give a hoot about who’s looking. Surprisingly, people take note when you begin to center your attention inward. Because authentic self-assurance exudes an irresistible charm.
Put an end to the verification process. For the day only. Redirect your efforts from seeking unattainable acceptance to creating the life you desire—one that is rich, peaceful, and full of purpose. Whoever matters most to you isn’t merely seeing your tale; they are a part of it.
Consider this: Is it worth sacrificing your peace of mind to chase views?
2. Stop Deleting Posts Because They Don't Have Enough Likes.
Has the lack of likes ever caused you to remove a post? Keep it real. You took the effort to select the ideal filter and write the ideal caption, and then nothing happened. Then you choose to erase. However, consider this: whenever you remove a post in an effort to avoid the “shame” of poor participation, you are actually eliminating a small portion of your identity.
Okay, let’s not lie. Do you want to win some kind of unseen popularity contest or just share your life with the world? Likes may seem like money on social media, but that’s really a fallacy. Likes are like a piggy bank: they won’t help you achieve your goals and aspirations. Pursuing likes is like attempting to catch smoke; it’s a never-ending cycle of tension, depletion, and pursuit.
Imagine a room full of complete strangers. Suddenly, a shirt with the words “Only talk to me if you like my outfit” appears on someone’s person. Do you think it’s absurd? The problem with being too concerned about likes is that it begs the question, “Validate me!” On the other hand, what if you were perfectly OK without it?
Imagine for a second a world where all of your posts, including the ones that “flop,” are live. How radical is that? Instead of dreading it, what if you welcomed quiet? Nothing, not even algorithms or double taps, can determine your value. You regain command when you cease removing posts in response to likes. Here I am, you’re declaring. Accept it or reject it. Believe me when I say that self-assurance is more appealing than any viral sensation.
Keeping posts might improve your life, but removing them won’t. Why? Because it serves as a gentle reminder that you are sufficient, even in the face of adversity. Make an impression, but live your life for effect.
Think about whether you’re living for the likes or for the life itself the next time you’re tempted to delete.
3. Stop Dwelling In The Past About What Could've Been.
How about this scenario? It’s the most eerie question that anyone has ever asked in English. Could I still accept that position? What would happen if I stuck with that partner? But what if I had opted for an alternative? It seems familiar, doesn’t it? But here’s the harsh reality: you can’t solve the past; all you can do is learn from it. So why do we persist in dwelling on the possibilities that have never materialized?
A rude awakening is in order: no matter how great the past seemed, it is like an expired coupon—it is worthless now. Still, a lot of us cling to it, playing out scenarios like an addictive Netflix series. So what happened? We fail to appreciate the here and now, the one location where meaningful experiences can be had.
Picture this: you’re behind the wheel of an automobile, but you never look anywhere else. Have you calculated how far you can go before you have an accident? Focusing on things that have already happened prevents you from seizing opportunities that are standing right in front of you.
Now we’ll turn the tables. “What if” questions are gifts in and of themselves, right? What if the chances you passed up weren’t failures but rather diversions that ultimately resulted in greater things? Reminiscing about the past won’t make it go away. A future is taken from you by it. Also, come on—you’ve been in mental quicksand long enough.
Instead of trying to find solace in rewriting your history, focus on living in the here and now and creating the future you want for yourself. You can redirect your attention from dwelling on “what could have been” to embracing the possibilities that exist in the here and now.
“What now?” is a better question to ask than “What if?” You are only as powerful as the choices you make today, not the ones you dwell on in regret.
So, keep this in mind the next time you find yourself reliving former situations: you may not be able to alter what has already happened, but you can certainly influence what will happen in the future. Are you prepared to take the next step? That is the only question.
4. Stop Feeding Embarrassed About Things That Make You Feel Happy.
Why is it that the very things that make us happy may also make us feel insignificant at times? For example, getting all giddy about your passion for birdwatching or dancing around the house to your favorite pop tune from the 2000s. Why do we pretend that happiness requires an approval slip before we let ourselves be happy? It’s true what they say: life is much more enjoyable and tranquil when you stop being ashamed of the things that bring you joy.
Consider this: how often have you repressed your joy out of concern about other people’s opinions? Perhaps you refrained from sharing that shot of your do-it-yourself garden or that daring clothing you adored. You know what? Judgment is just around the corner. Thoughts and opinions will always be shared, but will you truly let others’ transient opinions to deprive you of everlasting joy?
Just pretend you’re at a buffet and, in an effort to impress random people, you choose the “safe” foods instead of the ones you really want to eat. Think it’s utterly absurd? However, that is the result of ignoring the things that bring you genuine joy.
Something miraculous happens when you stop feeling guilty about being happy. Authentic living, unencumbered by the demands of fitting in or making a good impression. And come on, more individuals should just be themselves because the world needs them.
Listen up: when you let your guard down and embrace your eccentricities, interests, and strange pleasures, you open the door for others to do the same. Being authentic is the key to forming genuine interactions.
Is there anything embarrassing about you that you’ve been trying to keep hidden or minimize? Is it because you adore corny romantic comedies? Hoarding vintage comic books? Exhausted from a night of karaoke? Embrace it, whatever it may be. Feel proud of it. You should not alter your joy just to make other people happy; life is too short for that.
Now consider this: Are you living to make other people laugh or to keep yourself from seeming foolish? I assume you already know the answer, but the decision is ultimately yours.
5. Stop Comparing Yourself To Somebody Else, You Are Beautiful.
When you’re on social media, how often do you find yourself wondering, “Why can’t I look like that?” Their lives seem ideal; why isn’t mine? It’s easy to feel inadequate in a flawlessly perfect world. However, the reality is that comparison is deceitful. It takes away your self-assurance, tranquility, and capacity to appreciate your own attractiveness in the mirror.
Let’s be honest: comparing things isn’t only unfair; it’s poisonous. Comparing your behind-the-scenes performance to another person’s highlight reel is what happens when you compare yourself to them. The influential person whose figure is “perfect” Editing their images could take them a long time. That buddy of yours who has the ideal job? They may be facing challenges that you cannot fathom.
I have a strange idea: would you ever try to choose between a rose and a sunflower? Oh, absolutely not! You are like them; each is stunning in its own way.
You have a special ability that no one else possesses: your individuality. Your unique features, such as your freckles, laugh, and the way you captivate an audience with your enthusiasm, cannot be replaced. You can really accept and love yourself for who you are when you quit comparing yourself to other people.
The catch is that learning to love oneself takes time. “I am enough, exactly as I am.” is a choice that we make every day when we look at ourselves in the mirror.
You weren’t born to mimic another person’s every move. You have the power to write your own destiny, realize your own ambitions, and measure your own success; it is in your DNA. You could be living the life you desire if you didn’t waste time being envious of other people.
The next time you find yourself mindlessly reading through social media and making comparisons, stop and ask yourself: “Why am I sacrificing my power for someone else’s life?”
Wow, you’re stunning. You are sufficient. Furthermore, the world would benefit more from your authentic self than from a diluted imitation.
6. Stop Believing That Social Media Acceptance Determines Your Self Worth.
How many people liked your most recent post? Just how much of an impact did the number have on your mood? We live in a world where likes and emojis mean everything, and it’s easy to think that your value is dependent on how others see you online. However, you must face the harsh reality: measurements do not determine your worth, and following cannot buy you serenity.
It would appear that your value on social media may be measured by the amount of likes, comments, and shares you receive. Now consider this: what would happen if Instagram suddenly vanished tomorrow? Would you also vanish? Not at all. To put it simply, no algorithm could ever do justice to who you are.
Let your mind wander to a performance where you are intent on capturing the “perfect” Instagram story rather than fully immersing yourself in the music. How absurd! However, this is the consequence of seeking digital approval at the expense of appreciating the genuine beauty of life.
The truth is that chasing approval on social media doesn’t come cheap. You lose your serenity, your self-assurance, and occasionally even your genuine self when this happens. If you let people you don’t know much control your self-esteem by basing it on likes, you’ll never be happy. It seems a bit…imwise, doesn’t it?
Being famous is not a measure of your value. Your generosity, resilience, dreams, and the way you show up for the people you love are where it’s at.
How then can you escape? First things first: rethink your priorities. Do not post for the sake of affirmation; instead, post because you genuinely like doing so. No matter how “Instagrammable” a certain moment may be, it is important to savor the joy it brings you.
Consider this: If no one else could see this, would I still cherish it? Right now, you’re ahead of the game if you answered yes.
Your value is limitless, regardless of whether you double tap or not. Put down the phone and stop letting it dictate your self-esteem. No need to filter—you’re more than enough.
